No more finger pointing (blame)
No more you made me....!
No more its not my fault!
No more if this or that then...!
So difficult to interact and then accept that the feelings I feel, have nothing to do with the person I am interacting with. Then WHY? I think because its all part of the grand plan and the person I am interacting with is the trigger God's using at the moment, to grow, teach and heal me for the next part of the journey.
I must have boundaries that tell me when I am being abusive or when I am being abused! These are predetermined responses to situations, people and behaviours. They help me to know when "yes" is right and when "no" is right. Beyond these all discomfort is to be dealt with in recovery one day at a time.
"Oh Lord help, as we look deep within, fearless only because you are here with us. Let us see us that our awareness might free us-amen!"
12 Steps to Spiritual Recovery!
1- We admitted we were powerless over others and our dependencies-that our lives had become unmanageable.
2- Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
3- Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of that Power.
4- Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
5- Admitted to this Power, to ourselves and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
6- Were entirely ready to have this Power remove all these defects of character.
7- Humbly asked the Power to remove our shortcomings.
8- Made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all.
9- Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
10- Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.
11- Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with this Power, praying only for knowledge of His/Her will for us and the power to carry that out.
12- Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to others and to practice these principles in all our affairs.
(Many 12 step programs use the word God where we have written Power)
Various Claims of Promise from 12 Steppers1-We will find ourselves worthy of love and able to love others. We will not lose ourselves.
2-Courage and fellowship will replace fear.
3-Our lives will yield hope to share with others.
4-We will come to know the vastness of our emotions without being in slavery to them.
5-Learning to forgive, we will no longer be bound by our secrets to live in shame.
6-Serenity and peace will have meaning for us.
7-We will allow our lives and the lives of those we love to flow day by day with spiritual ease, balance and grace.
8-Attitude and outlook will be renewed.
9-Intuition will guide us to handle situations that were impossible in the past.
10-We will not regret the past recognizing its value for other sufferers.
11-Selfish interests will fall away as we gain interest in others.
12-Faith and gratitude will replace fear as we realize that a Greater Power is doing for us what we could not do for ourselves.
PRAY TWO WAY PRAYER-PRAY, LISTEN, WRITE, WRITE, WRITE
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Many of our ways and reasons for doing things have been unstable. Now we ponder and observe with great interest our every way. Really look at each move, each thought, each process, slow down the WAY every little thing is done. Do each thing only for the sake of doing it (not to get it over with). Experience life and take inventory as we do. What a difference such an attitude makes for me. Just typing these words has me enjoying a slow index finger way of plodding my way through this blog entry. A chore becomes a pleasure!
