Sharing or Controlling?

Is my sharing simply an expression or am I trying to convince someone about my perception? As I prepared to work step6 (Were entirely ready to have this Power/God remove all these defects of character) this thought came to me. I find that as I read commentary and answer questions about any step, there are always new revelations about myself even though the step4 inventory has bean completed for a while. These usually require some immediate work, as does the above question. Now generally speaking I would say that I am simply sharing my thoughts on a topic, however, people speaking before me in any meeting undoubtedly put fuel or water on the fire I am building to share as a meeting progresses. It is at this point that I must be very careful not to slant my sharing toward disputing any part of someone else's thoughts. This could be very damaging to many in the room depending how I am seen by others in the particular group. If my sharing is trying in any way to teach, instruct change minds, make statements etc, then I believe it is wrongly motivated and I am working on others inventories, putting people down (even publicly) and feeding my ego. At this point my program is NOT working and I have fallen into the very pitfall that resulted in my coming to this 12 step philosophy for help in the first place-I am trying to CONTROL others and the reasons do not matter, it is wrong and very damaging. Where I have seen this type of thing in the past, I have seen very little Spiritual progress. I have no doubt that this co-dependent type behaviour detracts immensely from the spiritual healing available where people are self-focused in recovery. So beware of the powerful/articulate speaker who is motivated this way. I would say a simple statement like "I do not agree with such and such..." could easily send someone away to never return. Sharing is my expression of thought on a topic for all in a group to hear and cannot be directed AT SOMEONE.

So to whatever degree I do or have done this sort of thing, I now clearly see it and believe that I am therefore ready to have the defect removed. I will ask for that to happen in Step7 later! This awareness that happens as I work the steps has been such an healing ingredient for me in the past